You can’t have it all. Sorry.

celebrating a new definition of success

I’m gonna kick off this week’s letter with what may seem like a harsh truth bomb:

You can’t have it all.


You see, time is finite.
Your energy is finite.
Your bandwidth is finite.
The space in your home is finite.

There isn’t room for everyone and everything. Try to shoe-horn it all in and your life erupts in clutter.

Clutter in your home.
And in your head.
And in your heart.

If you took on my challenge from a couple weeks ago, you made some good moves to address clutter in several areas of your life – physical clutter, mental clutter, and emotional clutter. If you missed that post, click here to read it.

The space you created by taking this action is sacred and needs to be treated as such. Instead of filling it back up with clutter, reserve it for thoughts, things, and people that are aligned with and support the highest vision you have for your life.

If you’re cramming your calendar, closet, or consciousness with things and commitments that distract or take away from the trail you want to blaze, it’s worth looking at why.

What could possibly be the benefits of settling?

  • You get to blame others for your unhappiness.
  • You don’t need to set boundaries.
  • You can play the “poor me” card.
  • You don’t have to risk making others mad.
  • You get to be seen as amenable and easy-going.

Now let’s flip that coin over. What are the consequences of settling?

  • You surround yourself with people who will remind you that your needs don’t matter.
  • You rarely experience true joy.
  • You spend your life chasing the elusive “someday”.
  • You send a message that you only want the crumbs and it’s the crumbs you shall get.
  • You end up resentful and pissed off.

How much time do you spend on things you don’t care about or with people you’d rather not be with? (Maybe even with people you don’t like – c’mon let’s call a spade a spade.)

What would you tell a friend or loved one who was doing the same thing? Who you heard say again and again how much she wants to improve her life only to not do anything about it?

What would you tell your younger self?

When you take stock of how precious this space is in your life, you become much more selective about what or who you let in. Only the best tribe mates, the best fitting and feeling wardrobe, the best thoughts are eligible.

We might think we have all the time in the world, but the sad truth is we don’t.

There are only 24 hours in a day.

730 hours in a month.

8,760 hours in a year.

Flash back to this time last year. I bet it feels like yesterday. That’s how fast time goes. There’s no more waiting for “someday.” Someday is NOW.

So what are you gonna do to seize the moment?

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2 replies
    DIANA E HOPPE says:

    Totally agree! Can’t wait for SOMEDAY to happen. Need to seize control TODAY!
    Sometimes, tough love is the best advice – even with ourselves! Thanks so much! – Dr. Diana Hoppe


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