Ask the Coach — #27

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This installment, I’ve answered the submitter’s question via video, with some additional tips written below, to mix things up a bit. Enjoy!

Dear Kerri,

I am a 55 year old menopausal women and I frequently feel “off centered”.  Hard to define, but I definitely feel it.  I have difficulty feeling the joy of things that should be joyful, and a good bit of anxiety over trivial things.  I have spent much of my life being “the responsible one” and I guess I am kind of tired of it but don’t know quite how to switch gears.
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My kids are grown, I have a wonderful 2nd husband, and five terrific grandkids as well as a job that is fulfilling and does not restrict me to location or hours.  Sounds ideal, but I am struggling to enjoy it which sounds silly even as I write this.  Can you help?


Dear Laurie,

Thanks for writing in. In addition to the suggestions and thoughts I share in the video below, I’d encourage you to consult with your physician (or homeopath, or menopause specialist, etc), if you haven’t already, about feeling “off centered” and sort of “blah” when it comes to joy. My hunch is much of that could be hormone-related due to menopause.

Watch below for more tips to help you rediscover you.


Wishing you all the best,



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