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[dc]I[/dc] recently participated in Deepak Chopra’s latest 21-Day Meditation Challenge, and many of my clients did as well. During the three weeks, a few of them mentioned to me that they feared they weren’t meditating “correctly” or that they couldn’t sit still or quiet the monkey mind. When I suggested that they tweak how they meditate to better suit their needs, some responded with surprise. “Isn’t that cheating?”
I smile as I remember those conversations while I’m hiking in the nearby woods doing my meditation. Although Deepak is instructing me to “find a comfortable spot and close your eyes,” on some days, I’m much more present in my body when I’m in motion.
As I’m hiking up and down and all around, I’m silently chanting the daily mantra. I’m breathing fully. My energy is completely in tact and I feel centered, even though I’m not propped up on a meditation cushion in lotus position.
Who’s in charge of your emotional and spiritual journey anyway? You are. While it’s great to use all the wonderful resources we have around us to help us develop and grow, it’s important to retain your authentic truth at the same time.
For a number of years (and still now and again), I felt a bit like a square peg in a round hole when it comes to working in the self-improvement field. I love spiritual concepts and principles, but I’m also no ethereal, patchouli-wearing, flower child (not that there’s anything wrong with that!). I’m a straight-shooting, bottom-liner, potty-mouthed Taurus encased in layers of love and compassion. And I have a hefty dose of “woo woo” sprinkled on top.
I used to think that I couldn’t be all of those things and be spiritual. I thought I had to do things a certain way to be successful in life and in business. I thought I had to be just like that person who was where I wanted to be, and to be a lot more “woo woo” and flowery. While I do many things in a similar way to others in my field, I put my unique spin on it, too.
At times, that can make me not quite fit the mold, but really, is there “right” self-growth language or a “wrong” approach? Can’t it come packaged in all sorts of forms and even include, dare I say, a curse word or two? I believe it can. In fact, a lot of people who work with me choose to because of my down-to-earth style.
When it comes to your journey, your way is the right way, even if you’re not where you want to be. You’re exactly where you should be, and when you’re ready to make a change, you’ll reach out for the support you need, in whatever form that takes.
So whether it’s meditation, visualization, journaling, or any other spiritual practice to help you be more present for life, give yourself permission to approach it in a way that works for you. If you believe you have to do it the same way as a perceived “expert” does, then you’re handing away your power, which results in the exact opposite of your intention to heal and grow.
OK. Your turn! Where are you trying to be someone you’re not? Do you allow yourself to break the rules and do things your way when it comes to your journey? Let’s continue to stir the pot in the comments below.