There’s a Chinese proverb that says, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” So, what “tree” do you wish you had planted 20 years ago? One year ago? Yesterday?
When you say you want to make a change, yet take no action to support that, you’re essentially telling yourself that you aren’t worth it; that you don’t matter. That’s the painful truth that can keep you from making any progress.
Let’s say you hold a belief that your needs aren’t as important as everyone else’s. Chances are, you’ll validate that belief by putting your needs last.
If you’re telling yourself that you don’t have what it takes to get healthy, grow your business, or get out of debt, then you’re most likely going to prove yourself right; unless, of course, you make a conscious decision to prove yourself wrong.
Here are 5 steps to smash your blocking belief to bits:
1. Identify the belief you’d like to eradicate. Some examples include:
- I don’t have what it takes.
- I’m not motivated.
- I have no willpower.
- My needs don’t matter.
- I never finish what I start.
2. Come up with a powerful, opposite belief of the blocking one that’s holding you back. Using the ones above, that might be something like:
- I have everything I need to succeed.
- I easily break projects down into manageable steps and take action.
- I’m patient and loving with myself as I step out of my comfort zone.
- To be able to care for others, I must care for myself first.
- I easily follow through on the projects and tasks that matter.
3. Start keeping a Belief Book. Once you have your new belief (one that makes you say “Hell, yeah!”), write it down 10 times before bed, every night, for at least two weeks. You’re about to have great access to your subconscious during your sleep, so it’s a perfect time to plant this new, positive seed.
4. Act as if. Now that you’ve been planting the seed for a bit, it’s time to begin walking as if it’s fully true and integrated. This behavior will be the validation the new belief needs to take hold. For example, you might challenge yourself to decline any request or invitation for two weeks to help validate your new belief that your needs come first. Without this action, the belief remains an idea.
5. Repeat as needed. Whenever you find yourself defaulting to your old belief, revisit steps 1-4. It took years to lock your blocking belief in place, so be patient as you work to flip it.
OK, your turn! I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. What belief is holding you back? Are you having trouble identifying it? Where are you feeling stuck? Can you see yourself taking these steps? As always, I’d love for you to join the conversation in the comments section below.