In just a few days, my new book will be released to the world! It’s all very surreal. To be honest, writing a book is something I only loosely considered over the years. It was an idea tucked way back in the recesses of my mind. Clients would ask, “When is your book coming out?” To which I’d reply, “Eh, I dunno. Maybe someday.”
It felt like such an enormous undertaking and I just didn’t know if I had what it takes. Besides, being a creative, right-brainer (read: unfocused and scattered), how could I possibly capture the coaching and teaching I’ve done over the years and put it into a cohesive structure?
Well, self-doubt be damned, I did it! And Hay House, the world’s largest self-empowerment publishing company, scooped it up! Life has been quite the whirlwind since then, and I wouldn’t change a second of it.
With my book, What Your Clutter Is Trying to Tell You: Uncover the Message in the Mess and Reclaim Your Life, my hope is to help you feel less alone in your clutter struggle; to eliminate the shame around it; and to help you see clutter as a powerful creative partner instead of the enemy. This shift in perspective lets you use clutter as a catalyst for change, and it can teach you a lot about what’s working in your life and what isn’t.
Here is a brief excerpt from my book that expands on this concept:
“Some of your clutter has accumulated because of ineffective systems, but it all has an emotional component. When you explore what that component is, you reveal incredible insights into why you aren’t accomplishing your goals and how you’re getting in your own way over and over again.
Maybe you’d like to be in a loving romantic relationship, but you can’t seem to find someone who fits the bill. What are your current relationships with friends and family like? Could they use some boundaries? If so, those dynamics are likely clogging up your relationship center and leaving no room for someone new.
Are you holding onto things from past relationships that cause you grief? That could be getting in the way. Do you feel undeserving of love? This blocking belief might be the culprit. That’s all clutter. Do you stress about money? Clutter in the form of blocking beliefs around money, a disorganized bill-paying system, or resentment of those who have more than you could very well be keeping the money away. Clutter has a lot to tell you about what’s off-balance in your life. It’s like a flashing arrow pointing to the areas that need attention. Identify an aspect of your life that isn’t going the way you’d like, and there will be corresponding clutter.
Realizing that there’s a lot more clutter in your life than just physical items may seem like it complicates matters, but in fact it simplifies things. When you recognize that your clutter holds some life-changing clues, dealing with it becomes a treasure hunt. Rather than resisting the piles (physical and emotional) and hoping they’ll magically go away, you can think about what those piles might be trying to tell you.
As you dive deep into the message in the mess, here are some questions to consider:
- What stops you from clearing your clutter? (Go beyond “I don’t have time.”)
- What would it mean if it was all gone? (Move past “I’d be relieved.”)
- If clutter were no longer an obstacle, what would you then have time for? (This might be a professional pursuit, a romantic relationship, or a life dream.)
- Is there anything about that task, project, or goal that feels intimidating? (Might your clutter be a convenient distraction from pursuing that scary goal?)
You can’t change what you aren’t aware of. Your soul is trying desperately to get your attention. It has something to say and isn’t feeling heard. The message might be a call to action or a cry for help. Either way, stubborn clutter is an indicator of a non-clutter issue.”
You see, there is so much more to clutter than just annoying piles or draining relationships. It provides a priceless opportunity to heal aspects of your life you’ve likely struggle with for a long time. It helps you discover how you self-sabotage, and it shines a light on outdated thinking and blocking beliefs that have been tripping you up over and over again.
I believe… no, I know… that if you apply the concepts in this book and do the exercises, you will experience a dramatic shift in your life. What once seemed impossible will feel possible. What once felt insurmountable will become easier than you could have ever imagined.