Doesn’t it feel good when you realize you’re not alone? When others are struggling with a challenge? I don’t know about you, but it gives me hope when I know others are facing similar battles. Not from a “misery loves company” place, but from a “we can do this together” place.
There’s such power in a like-minded community and when it’s filled with others blazing a common trail, we become a force to be reckoned with!
I have found this to be especially true when it comes to clearing out and simplifying your life. In every clutter course or workshop I’ve ever led, it’s only a matter of time before a participant says, “I’m glad I’m not the only one.”
I can totally relate. I can’t tell you how many times I reached out to my Tiny House People Facebook group throughout our build for encouragement, answers, and guidance.
There’s a lot of shame with clutter and as soon as you’re not alone, you feel seen, heard, and understood. It’s then when you’re most likely to make a move that may have scared you too much beforehand. As Brené Brown has said, “Shame needs secrecy to survive and the antidote is empathy.”
When teaming up with others, it’s important to choose the right people — those who inspire, celebrate, and challenge you without any agenda other than pure support.
Look for traits such as:
- Compassionate (but not too compassionate!)
- Able to challenge you in a supportive way
Avoid those who aren’t ready to make bold moves in their own lives. Otherwise they may prefer you remain stuck so as to not challenge their status quo. At the first sign of them encouraging you to stay small, run for the hills!
I’ve found that I thrive more when my accountability buddies are outside of my inner circle. When someone doesn’t know me personally, they’re less likely to give me a pass for my creative ducking and dodging. That’s something else I often hear in my groups: that the lack of personal ties allows them to step up more fully without fear of the dreaded “Who do you think you are?”
One member of my new online community recently took a huge step in wrapping up a past relationship that’s been holding her back in many areas of her life. It was something she had been avoiding for years, but with a little push from all of us, some accountability, and loving support, she did it! When she shared her success, she wrote, “I took such comfort knowing you all were there rooting for me. I couldn’t wait to tell you I had done it!”
I, too, was dragging my feet on something important. After sharing my procrastination (again!) with my mastermind group, it was time for some tough love. They gave me a challenge: Get it done by the next time we meet or you give each of us a $25 gift card to Amazon. How’s that for motivation? You bet your ass I got it done!
There are so many cool ways a group of fellow trailblazers can support you, and I would love to be on your team. If you haven’t checked out my group, Clutter Clear Your Life, yet, I encourage you to do so. It’s a great place to help you make moves you’ve been wanting to for a while now and to finally put into action all the great learning you’ve done through courses, books, workshops, etc.
This is your last chance to jump in at my Founder’s Price of $19/month or $190/year. So long as you are a member in good standing, your rate is locked. And that’s a pretty good deal because it’s about to increase. Starting Monday, July 15th, the cost will be $29/month or $290/year. Still an incredible deal, but not quite as incredible as the Founder’s price!
If you’re not already a member, I sincerely hope you’ll consider joining us. There are lots of goodies in there right now waiting for you including this week’s webinar on Clarifying the Vision for Your Life.