A New Approach to Deal with Change
We did it! We sold the house and are settling into our downsized space. Phase 1 on the journey to the new American dream is in the books, but it hasn’t come without its challenges.
Change often isn’t easy. That which feels unfamiliar can sometimes be terrifying. While packing, Little Kerri would take over and focus on how she felt trapped; that there was no turning back; that she couldn’t change her mind. Thinking about what she would no longer have only spiked the anxiety.
I gave myself plenty of space to feel, grieve, and be supported, but I also did something else that helped tremendously, and I think you, too, might find it helpful when dealing with change.
Every day, I challenged myself to come up with at least five things I was looking forward to with this new phase of my life. I wrote down things like living closer to downtown, not having to do yard work, having more time for kayaking and hiking, and being one step closer to hitting the road.
By intentionally focusing on the positives within this time of transition helped me to tap into the excitement of it instead of just the fear.
Where in your life could you use this approach?
- Perhaps your kids are starting a new school in the fall. Try playing this game with them and challenge them to come up with some things they’re looking forward to in the new school.
- Maybe you’ve recently been laid off. What opportunities could come with this new, clean slate?
- Just go through a break-up? Name five things that you’re excited to do or experience as a newly single person.
It might not be easy to find the silver lining, but the sheer act of trying shifts your thinking to the positive, making it easier for you to see it.
Ok, you’re up! I want to hear from you. Where can intentionally focus on abundance and positives to help you through a challenging time? Brave enough to share your list? Let’s chat in the comments below.
Until next week, keep taking those small steps to Live Out Loud.
have certainly had some challenging times in my life but nothing like what I am going thru now. I don’t know where to turn.
I am a 57 year old female whose significant other is terminal and not expected to be here in a year. My best friend tried to kill her self in April and wasn’t successful. I don’t have family to lean on and my two strongest connections are draining me. I am trying to decide if I should leave my job to care for them as I am struggling to handle it all.
Thanks for listening.
Thanks for sharing, and I’m so sorry to hear about your significant other and everything else that you are dealing with. Have you considered working with a therapist? I don’t know where I’d be without mine! You’ve got quite a bit on your plate right now and it sure sounds like you could use some regular, consistent, emotional support from someone outside of your inner circle.
A great place to start to find one is with your primary care physician, if you really like or trust him or her. You can also get a local list from your health insurance provider.
You are worth the time and effort it takes to find a great support system.
Sending you lots of love,