Ask the Coach — Week 1

This is the column where, each week, I’ll be answering one website visitor’s question in hopes of encouraging and inspiring you all through your shared (and likely, relevant) challenges, triumphs, and struggles.

Dear Kerri,

My spouse and I have been trying to sell our house for a few months now. We feel like we’ve done all we can — staging, minor repairs, retained a great agent, etc. Because we are relocating at the end of the summer, we really need this to go soon! How can I maintain my sanity during this stressful time while also staying present for the task at hand, which is finding buyers for our home?

Impatient in Idaho

Dear Impatient,

I can really appreciate your frustration. While the housing market may seem tough right now, there’s a key piece to selling your house that you may be forgetting.

I hear that you’ve done a lot of the necessary preparations — cleaning, fixing, staging, etc. Although your house is ready for sale, I wonder how available it is for sale.

When we are tied to the outcome of a situation, the stressed energy we are embodying can actually keep us stuck to the situation we most want to let go of or move on from. In your case, the strong desire (and need) for your house to sell sooner rather than later could be just the reason it’s not moving. Your energy is still so tied into your current house that, when buyers walk in, it may be difficult for them to feel themselves living there. Sure, with the great staging they most likely can envision themselves moving in, but do they feel like there is space not only for their belongings, but also for their energy?

What I would suggest for you is whenever you feel the stress come up about your home not selling fast enough, begin thinking about how wonderful it’s going to be to live in your new location. By doing this, you are shifting your energy to your new residence and, as a result, releasing your current home. The bonus? Not only do I believe this will help your house sell faster, but you’ll find your stress diminishing, too!

Good luck!


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