You’ve likely heard the idea that you are the average of the five people closest to you. As you consider who those people are, are you satisfied with how they’re representing you? Conversely, how might they think of you as one of their five?
If you can’t be bothered with high-functioning, good quality friendships, I’ve got a surefire way for you to be rid of them. Simply follow the five steps below to guarantee you’ll be surrounded by commiserators and victims.
- Spend more time complaining about what’s not working in your life than you do taking action to improve your situation.
- When someone is doing or has something you desire, knock them down a few pegs by diminishing their success. Here’s some language: “Sure, I guess she seems happy on her vacation. Ya know, if you’re into that sort of thing.”
- When friends come to you for support, turn it around and make it all about you, saying something like, “Oh, you think that’s bad, wait’ll you hear this…”
- Never take responsibility for anything. Instead, be sure to blame your boss, society, the President, your parents, your third grade teacher, or the jerk who cut you off.
- Judge or question everything. If someone shares a new idea with you, tell them straight away why it won’t work or how foolish it is. Remember, if it’s not something you’d do, it’s wrong.
Should someone try to help you see a different perspective or put a positive spin on any of the above, walk away immediately. You don’t need that kind of joy in your life.
Now I’d love to hear from you. Did you identify with any of the above behaviors? In yourself? In people in your life? Energy vampires are often just operating from a place of pain or fear. If you see yourself in any of these traits, what might you be afraid of? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Until next week, keep taking those steps to Live Out Loud.