I’m sure this is a busy week for you, whether you’re running around doing last-minute errands, working hard to manage your mind, or feeling vulnerable as you tend to your heart. I hope this week’s letter helps you remember the most important person on your list — You.
This time of year can be a season of “extra.”
Extra sensitive buttons.
Extra expectations to be happy and jolly.
All of this “extra” can make it tough for you to take care of yourself, so here is a short self-care cheat sheet with some tips to help you enjoy (or survive!) the next seven-10 days.
- When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, triggered, or cornered, remember, the bathroom is your friend. Escape to this one place where you’re guaranteed privacy, close the door, run the water, and breathe. Place your hand on your heart and focus on pulling your energy back into your body.
- Mingle in a room separate from the food and drinks. This way, you won’t unconsciously reach for them as a way to numb out or manage your emotions. Maybe eat a little something healthy before you arrive at the festivities so you don’t show up starving.
- Allow for time to debrief after a gathering. Whether in a quiet car ride home, through a venting session with a trusted loved one, or in a relaxing hot bath, have something lined up to help you settle back in to your energetically-familiar space.
- Save yourself the suffering of expecting or hoping people will be who you wish they were, and instead practice loving them for who they are. You’ll enjoy your time with them more when you’re not resisting the truth of what is. A silly thing I say in my mind when I get fired up to remind myself to practice compassion is “She’s not an asshole. She’s just wounded.” And I usually sing it to the tune of “He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.” Whatever works, right?
- Whatever you’re feeling, let that be ok. Maybe you don’t have any family or close friends around or you’re grieving the loss of a loved one. Don’t beat yourself up for not mustering up some jolliness. And, on the flip side of the same coin, if you feel happy when you think you should be sad, let that be ok, too. The best gift you can give yourself anytime of year is loving yourself right where you’re at.
However and whatever you celebrate this holiday season (or don’t), I wish you love, peace, and comfort.