A couple of weeks ago, my mother took a pretty bad fall down a flight of stairs. Miraculously, she walked away from the accident without any broken bones, except for a small fracture in her foot. While she did have a lot of bruising and some intimidating-looking hematomas, it could have been so much worse. We, as a family, thank God every day for her strength.
The toughest part of the experience for Mom is needing to rely on others for help. She is fiercely independent and pretty damn stubborn (Sorry, Mama!) It’s incredibly difficult for her to feel like she, in her words, “is putting anyone out.”
No matter how much we remind her how blessed we are to have such a large and loving family who rally around each other, she thinks that the rallying should never be for her.
I, like my mother, am not fond of relying on anyone. Why risk being disappointed? Better to just do it yourself, right? But, as I watch her struggle with needing others, I can see how incredibly courageous vulnerability is — not easy to see when it’s yourself.
I wonder if she sees that; that her asking for — and receiving — help when it’s really uncomfortable to do so, is pretty brave, and that even when she is feeling down and out, that she is still inspiring me.
Maybe she can inspire you, too. Where could you practice intentional vulnerability?
Until next week, keep taking those small steps to Live Out Loud.