I once had a boss who drove me bat-shit crazy. She was clueless about what went into the work we did, and looked foolish when she’d try to instruct us on how to do our jobs. She was the walking example of the often-used business approach of continuously promoting those who can’t get the job done to get them as far away from the work as possible.
I can get pretty riled up at the sight of injustice, and while that’s certainly a good thing when it comes to people being mistreated, it can sometimes spill over into insignificant situations, i.e. my boss’s incompetence.
I wanted to leave this job for years before I finally did. What kept me stuck there? The energetic hook of my frustration with my boss. Those days when I could leave my fight at home and go to work with the intention of being civil to her were much more peaceful and went by much more quickly.
The more I focused on having these kind of days, the more I could really see myself giving my notice. Instead of commiserating and bitching with coworkers, I vented to my journal. I practiced sending her love and blessings instead of anger (that one was really hard!) Although I didn’t totally believe that this approach would serve me well (I really wanted to be pissed off!), I did it anyway. Soon, my dedication paid off, and I quit.
Hindsight, of course, is always 20/20, and I can clearly see now that those actions were the key to my freedom. As difficult as it was to unhook from the drama, doing so taught me a lot about handling future tricky times. Had I quit out of aggravation and as a means to escape, I would have found myself in a similar situation in no time. After all, wherever you go, there you are. 😉 Is there a situation in your life right now where you’re getting tangled up in anger, frustration, or drama? Maybe you’re…
- Feeling unsupported by a friend or family member.
- Feeling mistreated by a boss or coworker
- Fed up with computer crashes
- Annoyed with a noisy neighbor
Whatever it may be, people-related or otherwise, if you long to have it behind you, the best thing you can do is loosen your energetic tie to it. Giving it less fuel will help it to die out.
Take a moment and consider how you can reclaim your power by giving less attention to the source of your annoyance. It’s your call whether you make yourself miserable or set yourself free. I recommend the latter!
Until next week, keep taking those small steps to Live Out Loud.