Think about the clutter in your life — books, magazines, draining friendships, clothes. Sure, it’s all annoying and it would be nice to have it gone.
Now feel into your body as you think about that clutter. Are you tensing up? Feeling a bit nauseous? Overcome with overwhelm?
The “stuff” in your life is blocking abundance channels, and the worry, frustration, and emotional ties to your clutter adds to it.
Here’s the good news — by dealing with the layers of your clutter, you up your chances of it never returning. (click to tweet)
Think of those times when you had the best intentions of organizing your linen closet or your office. You had an open afternoon, and you planned to dive in and leave the space sparkling when you’re done.
At the end of the day, however, all you’d accomplished was watching reruns of tv shows and poking around on Facebook.
Now go back to that scenario and imagine starting your clutter clearing with your resistance instead of the items in the closet. Before you pull one item off the shelf, you spend five minutes tuning in to see what you’re feeling. You give space and voice to the desire to distract yourself with laundry. You check in to see what your block is trying to tell you.
If you find it difficult to identify the message, set a timer and start with 15 minutes of clearing the physical clutter. Sometimes you need to put your hands on the items to wake up the message.
As soon as you feel anything, pause and be with that emotion.
What if, during all those times that you’ve tried to get organized, you were simply starting with the wrong clutter? Your lack of success isn’t because you are a disorganized person or you’re unable to focus. Perhaps your focus was just on the wrong thing. Perhaps you were starting with step 5 instead of step 1. Step 1 is clearing feelings.
A big part of getting rid of clutter is practicing loving compassion with yourself, and inviting your resistance in as a creative partner instead of the enemy. When you team up in this way, there’s little that can stop you.
So here’s your challenge for the week:
Revisit an area of clutter that has given you trouble in the past. Bring along a notebook or journal. Set a timer for 15 minutes and answer this question: “What is it about this clutter that I find so difficult to sort?” Then let it flow. Free-write. No censoring. No editing. Just let whatever wants to come out, to come out.
Now, take a few deep breaths to get centered, then read what you’ve just written. Read it with empathy. Read it with kindness and understanding. Let your Little One know that you’re right there with her (she’s the one who’s resistant).
After some loving reassurance, revisit the clutter and see if it feels any differently.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this. Join the conversation in the comments below.
Until next week, keep taking those small steps to Live Out Loud.