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Want To Make More Money? Take a Break

I recently had a call with a client who was beating herself up for not getting more done in her business. She knew what she should be doing, but couldn't seem to make any progress. Using my intuition when working with clients, I trust the questions that pop into my head. "What's ...

Your Inner Critic Is a Loving Liar

A client and I were having a celebration on our call this week. She had accomplished a feat that, before, would have been nearly impossible because her inner critic ruled the roost. For years, she believed the lies: "You don't have anything of value to offer." "No one cares what you have to ...

The Secret “Benefits” of Being Busy

"Busy." It's the new default answer to "How are you?" It's like an automatic reaction, said without really thinking first to see if it's true. We're supposed to be busy after all, aren't we? If we're not, we're lazy or lack ambition. I'm sure when you talk about how busy you ...

This Is YOUR Independence Day

THIS Saturday, those of us living in the United States will celebrate Independence Day, commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence, declaring independence from Great Britain. It's a day of barbecues, fireworks, and pride-filled celebrations. I like the idea of celebrating independence, and not just my country's. Imagine if we created such ...

Can Accepting Help Be an Act of Kindness?

I can remember the conversation clearly, even though it happened 20 years ago. I'm talking with my friend, Maggie, who often turned to me as her sounding board. I'm listening, empathizing, and offering advice when requested. I give a lot in this relationship. And she takes a lot. She sure sounds like an energy drain, ...

Are You Focusing on the Right Life?

I belong to a tiny house Facebook group, and recently read a post by someone who was essentially demonizing a family on a TV show because they didn't fit the member's definition of "living tiny". She berated them for having a large budget, for building a "tiny" vacation home while still ...

Top 5 Ways To Be an Energy Vampire

You've likely heard the idea that you are the average of the five people closest to you. As you consider who those people are, are you satisfied with how they're representing you? Conversely, how might they think of you as one of their five? If you can't be bothered with high-functioning, good ...

When It Comes To Your Life, Be a Mad Scientist

Melissa and I have been going back and forth for almost a year now on what we want the next chapter of our lives to look like, and more specifically, where we want it to happen. We've been driving ourselves crazy as we jump from one idea to the next. In talking with ...

Get Off the Hamster Wheel

As I write this post, I see a sticky note on my computer in my peripheral vision. It reads, "Miracles don't happen unless you do something." It's my reminder to consistently take action toward what I say I want in my life. It's a lovely intention, but not one I always ...

Three Tips To Help You Be Here Now

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.” -- Eckhart Tolle The passage of time is a fascinating thing. As a child, we want to ...